There are days when I want
to post a sign “at the beach— back in a week”.
Those are the days when the laundry is piled high, the dishes are in the
sink and everybody is waiting for mom to ring the dinner bell!
I have finally decided to
solicit help. I no longer want to carry
the load (literally). I plan to be
around a long time, so in order for me to endure I decided that I will rally
the troops here at home for help.
This summer I decided to
train my youngest child the way I would train an employee to do a job:
methodical, with skill, and patience. I must: communicate, delegate, write it
down, set goals, give incentives and reward often.
We start first with daily
routines (chores) that will carry her through life, college, whether married or
single.
Secondly, I want to teach
her to be diligent by helping her understand the importance of doing a good job
and being consistent.
Thirdly, explaining the
importance of doing chores with skill and the right attitude. Why the right attitude? Because the right attitude
will take you further than your skill.
Fourthly, being a person
of your word. (I no longer want to hear,
“I’ll do it tomorrow ma”). Doing what
you say you will do and following through is the beginning of having integrity. Integrity is a moral principle that must
first be taught at home, which again will help them on the job and carry them
through life.
When my youngest was a
toddler we used to watch a show about a girl and her doll. The girl pretended that the doll was real and
always at the end of the show she would tell her doll that it was time for a 10
minute tidy. She was in fact teaching
her viewers the importance of cleaning up after themselves. I used the same method with her and made a
game of it. Of course now that she is
much older it’s time to get serious about mastering the art of tidiness.
As a parent I constantly
have to remind myself that even though we may have worked on a project once we
may need to tweak it and sometimes go over it again and again. This of course takes time and patience of
which I am acquiring more of as I continue to teach and train.
There are some things that
are taught and some things that are caught!
How does one catch? First by being present physically, you’ve got
to make time to do the necessary things in order for your children to
understand, see and know how things are done.
For example, when I was a
child I used watch how my mom took the time preparing the home whenever we had
company coming. I came to understand
that there were some things that were done of importance in preparation for entertaining
her guests.
Although my mother taught me
the art of cleaning and cooking, there were other things that I caught by watching.
The way things were placed around the
house just so; the lace on the tables, the bread on the plate, the changing of curtains,
the waxed floors so shiny you could see your face. Little did I realize much later that I would pretty
much work the same way my mother did all those years ago.
Point your kids in the right direction-when they are old they won't be lost..Proverbs 22:6
I like this quote from Ralph Waldo Emerson,
"Watch your thoughts.
They become words. Watch your words. They become deeds. Watch your deeds. They
become habits. Watch your habits. They become character. Character is
everything."